Repair

Discussion Guidelines

Our team has been praying for months that God would use this series to bring us more into the freedom that is found in him. We believe that these small group discussions have potential to be both difficult and life changing, so we are asking for your group to commit to a few things during this series:

• Split up genders - We’d like each community group to divide up based on gender – men with men and women with women. We believe this will provide the potential for more openness in sharing.
• Confidentially is key - What is said here, stays here. We want to provide a high-trust, safe space to share. 
• Don’t Give Advice - During these next 3 weeks, avoid trying to “fix one another’s problems”. Let people share and thank them for sharing but this doesn’t need to turn into an advice giving session. Draw a circle around yourself and focus on everything within the circle.
• Pray for one another – The greatest encouragement and most powerful tool we have in seeing lives changed by Jesus is prayer. Feel free to pray as you begin group, as people share, and at the end of your time together. Bathe this time in prayer.

We ask that you review these guidelines together each week as a reminder before beginning discussion. We are trusting that God is going to do amazing things in the hearts/lives of his people as you step out in boldness to allow him to transform each of you more into his likeness. 

Life’s Healing Choices

CHOICE 6 – Repairing Relationships: Evaluate all my relationships. Offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for harm I’ve done to others when possible, except when to do so would harm them or others.

Group Questions

Take a few minutes together in prayer to invite the Lord to open your heart, to provide courage to share something hard if He prompts you to share, and to give each of you an awareness of the grace of Christ during this time together.

• Focus on the “why” of this question, not who offended you or the details of what they did: Why is it so hard to forgive people who have hurt you?
• As you look at the three kinds of forgiveness – accepting God’s forgiveness, forgiving others who have hurt you, forgiving yourself - which is the easiest for you to accept? Which is the most difficult? Why?
• Who is someone you need to make amends to? What is the first step you can take toward making things right?
• As we move forward, we want to continue to pursue health and avoid relapses into our hurts, hang-ups, or habits. What are some physical, emotional, or spiritual signs you can be watching for in your checkup that will alert you to a possible relapse? Under what conditions – such as time of day, location, alone, or in a particular group, etc. – do those signs most commonly occur?
• In what ways have you experienced God’s grace these last three weeks?
• Share with the group one of the biggest takeaways you have from the last three weeks together.

Spend some time praying for the things that have been shared. Keep these things confidential and continue to pray for each other specifically throughout the week.